If anyone has had a rough transition into motherhood, it’s me. But can we even call it a transition anymore? I’m already 2 years in!
Ain’t no hood like motherhood is the truest thing ever. Motherhood: ain’t nothing like it.
Motherhood is where I lost all personal routine and found myself back and forth on low emotions.
I realized I needed some goals so I sat down, got after it and I wrote down 45! Talk about setting myself up for failure! I picked 4 EASY, obtainable goals to apply to life. These help me feel accomplished and more myself which in turn help me be a better wife and mother and allow me to actually enjoy life’s moments much more.
1. Wake up at the same time everyday.
Jordan Peterson, acclaimed clinical psychologist and author of 12 Rules for Life says in his book,
“Waking up at a consistent hour is a necessity. Anxiety and depression cannot be easily treated if the sufferer has unpredictable daily routines.”
My husband, Daniel, says “Don’t let your kid start your day. You decide when you start you day.”
I used to think not having to set an alarm was one of the best parts of being a SAHM, but turns out it’s not so great. My day is 1000 Xs better when I wake up on my own, even if it’s just a tad bit before my son does. Rather than letting my 2 year old be my alarm clock, I’ve started setting my alarm for 6:00 AM. Sometimes he is up soon after and some days I get a good 40 minutes to myself. If I can start my day alone as simple as brushing my teeth and getting some reading in, it changes everything.
2. Eat breakfast.
Jordan Peterson (again, because, gosh, he is just so good!) also says in 12 Rules for Life, “I counsel my clients to eat a fat and protein-heavy breakfast as soon as possible after they awaken.” He goes on to explain why that specific meal is important. “I have had many clients whose anxiety was reduced to sub clinical levels merely because they started to sleep on a predictable schedule and eat breakfast.”
As a mom sometimes we forget to eat, which then leads to just shoving down some junk food as we walk through the kitchen, which is never a good decision. Making sure I start the day with some food has helped with that throughout the day, plus reducing anxiety as a mom? Yes please!
This has zero to do with losing weight or getting skinny. It has everything to do with mood and sanity. My mood and mind act very differently when I do and don’t work out.
• Exercise increases serotonin (sometimes referred to as the happy chemical) because it helps your brain regulate mood, sleep and appetite, contributing to well-being and happiness.
• Exercise increases your level of endorphins, which triggers a positive feeling in the body, thus a natural mood lifter.
• Exercise gives you a focused activity that can help you feel a sense of accomplishment.
4. Set an easy, obtainable daily goal.
I have found a daily feeling of accomplishment does wonders. And I’m talking, E A S Y , simple 2 minute tasks – make your bed, open the blinds, put your coffee mug in the dishwasher. Simple. Accomplished. Done. Now, you can conquer the world! ✅
Sit down and write your own goals. Get together with someone who knows you best and can help identify things that really help create a confident, happy, healthy you. And then get after it, mama. Here’s to a better day, a better week, a better you!