I don’t want to be a Proverbs 31 woman. (Gasp!)
There. I said it.
I mean have you ever read the passage?
She has got to be so. tired.
She doesn’t sleep. She never stops. Does she ever do anything for herself?
It seems like she is in a constant state of striving. Always completely a checklist. Always doing.
Always up before the rest of the house starting the day. That is always a little hard around here when my child wants to be the first one up at 5:30 on the daily.
It’s like this woman has set an impossible standard that we are encouraged and told to measure up to, but life already has me so tired, I don’t even desire to do any of these things.
Does she even stop and take a Facebook break? Does even she lock herself in the bathroom to escape for a few minutes? Is she even human?
I realized I was focusing on all the things she does and missed an important part to this passage. A key part of this scripture is found towards the end, v. 30.
“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
We can learn something in the 2nd part of that verse.
This woman isn’t doing these things because she wants to be recognized as mom of the year. She’s not doing all the things because she is anal and controlling and wants her house to be in perfect order. She’s not trying to put us other moms to shame by showing out and being the best wife and person who is completely adored by her family.
She does these things out of the fear of the Lord.
And the fear of the Lord is birthed out of relationship with the Lord.
She’s not striving or simply checking off items. She is living with Christ as the center of her entire being.
So maybe the Proverbs 31 woman isn’t so bad. When I look at it this way, maybe it’s not quite so impossible or even undesirable. When I see her life as life with Christ as the center, in fear and in love for Him, I do want to be that woman. Now it is clear that her life is far more than being known as a trophy wife and mom.
Maybe we don’t wake up before all the kids and meal prep. That doesn’t mean we aren’t living a Proverbs 31 life. It’s so much deeper.
It’s about fear and love for Christ. Noble character. Working purposely. Living generously. Trusting God and living for Him.
So yeah, I still think she is exhausted. But we all live and exhaust our lives for something. Exhausting it for Christ is the way to do it. May we be known for that.